Connecticut — I (20s, woman) was very good friends with a man (not sexual at all. He was actually gay) for the better part of two years.
I realized he was kind of a user and would never be there for me the way he expected me to be there for him. So three months ago after a lot of back and forth trying to salvage things I texted him that I wanted no further contact with him and goodbye (after failed attempts to get together in person.)
I thought that would be the last of it. Last week he wrote me out of the blue, like we’d never stopped speaking. I ignored it and blocked his number. He messaged me from a different number. I ignored it.
Two hours ago he showed up at my door. Knocked and said he knew I was in there and he wasn’t leaving until I opened the door because I ghosted him and he wants answers (no I did not. I told him in clear language, in writing, goodbye forever.)
Eventually after about 45 minutes he stopped knocking and I thought that was the end of it. I decided to look through the peephole just to be sure, and sure enough, he was sitting on steps.
I called the only guy friend I have who he doesn’t know who could pass as a boyfriend and asked if he’d come over and put the fear of God info him (NOT anything physical) just “What’re you doing at my girlfriend’s house? I don’t know you. You need to leave or I’m calling the cops.“ Just any scenario in which I wouldn’t have to give in and talk to him. I even called my cousin, a girl younger than I am, who lives nearby to come threaten to call the cops. No one was available.
So 30 more minutes passes and he’s sitting in his parked car directly in front of my house. Staring at the house. Waiting. It’s about time for me to go to work soon so I call 911 to be sure this is dealt with before then. I walk to work and he could easily follow me in his car or get out and follow me.
The police said since he was on a public Street in legal parking they couldn’t do anything but to call if he came on the steps again.
That was over an hour ago and he’s still here. I had to give my shift to another person. If I’m not working I want to get some sleep, but I don’t feel safe sleeping with him out there. I don’t feel safe doing anything with him out there. I want him gone.
I called police 5 minutes ago and said he’s still out there please do something (first I called 911 but this time I called non emergency) and they again said if he’s on the street in a legal space and he isn’t idling I need to leave well enough alone or get a friend to escort me to work and school.
My ex friend is obsessive, unemployed (unlimited free time), and he absolutely will try this again if I give in and communicate in any way.
The minute I hung up with non emergency I started making this post. What can I do?
tl;dr a man I used to be friends with is sitting in front of my house making me feel unsafe. He won’t leave until I talk to him. Cops say he’s technically on public land right now (the street in his car in legal parking) so they can’t intervene. Any other suggestions?
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