I work at a restaurant in Virginia and we underwent a change of management 2 months ago. My new manager has been very difficult to work for and several coworkers have left specifically because of him. It came to a breaking point for me today when he pulled me into the office and yelled at me for an hour today about a personal issue.
Here’s what happened. I was picking up my roommate and having a drink at the bar while I waited for her to get off. I had my 6 year old daughter with me. One of my coworkers who is a good friend was talking to us at the bar and my daughter gave him the middle finger. This is where I’ll lose most of you.
My daughter and I have a beautiful relationship and I am always honest and real with her. She understands how to be respectful and would never do this at school or with a stranger. It was not out of anger or mean spirited at all. She was being playful. Adults swear and flip the bird with their friends all the time in good fun. It makes no sense to me that there is a certain age where this ok or not ok. It’s the intent that matters.
A customer saw what she did and got very upset when I told him she is allowed to do that when it’s in good fun and with someone she knows. The coworker/friend defended us as well. I was not in uniform and had not worked that day.
My new manager brought it up in a managers meeting a few days later. This involved my general manager and the owners of the property (new managers bosses) as well as every manager on the property. This is also why I was pulled into the office today. He told me I was raising my child wrong and no matter how many times I asked him to please keep it about work he would not stop berating me about my personal parenting decisions. He said if he saw her do that he would be willing to lose his job because he would hit me.
I loved my job before he was brought on. I don’t want to leave but I can’t continue working in these ongoing conditions. He also told a married male server today that he is the only one who can “fix” a lesbian server. He makes these kinds of abusive/sexist comments all the time.
Virginia law says you can be fired without reason so I’m worried about going to his boss (who seems like a super reasonable and honestly good guy) because he’ll just fire me. I’m a single parent and can’t afford to lose my job. Please if you have any advice I’d really appreciate it!
Written By: halohoop
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